The other reason I moved my blog...

I think I'm being stalked. And it's a really interesting experience since there is a definite cross between being flattered and being annoyed. Now the back story, this is a woman who I went out with twice and then decided there just wasn't any chemistry. She was certainly nice enough, but no sparks - at least on my part.

So, what happened from then was I simply never asked her out again and kept turning down her offers as well. Furthermore I have never even called her. I haven't spoken to her on the phone in about 3 months. I hoped she would simply take the hint that I would be happy to be a friend and talk, but there wasn't going to be anything more.

Now I can fully accept my responsibility here. I never flat out told her I wasn't interested. That's very hard for me since I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. I was hoping that she would catch on when there wasn't any "next date". But it's been months now, and she still sends me e-mails on almost a daily basis. And these are not just quick notes, they are extended letters.

I'll respond to them about once a week since I didn't want to be totally rude. I would answer her direct questions, avoid any further discussion about getting together, and ask very little about her in return. Again, I was hoping that I would eventually bore her, or that she would give up. She just hasn't.

And the final straw came when she found my old blog a few weeks ago. Combine that with the fact that I wanted to use my blog to talk about work and eventually my social life, and it became obvioust that it was time to move and alias myself. It may not have been the best idea I've ever had to blog under my real name.

To give you a better idea of what I'm talking about, here was the e-mail from earlier this month when she said she found my old site:

Hi Handsome! :D

So, how was the weekend? Good, I hope. Mine was kinda quiet...at least as quiet as it can be with a teenaged daughter :D

We didn't have a home game this weekend, at least not for varsity...we did go to the home JV game on Thursday night against....that right...you guessed it...You guys!! Which means we played at CHS for varsity on Friday night. And I have no idea who won, but I'm sure I'll hear all about this afternoon, if not from Brandy, then from John, the varsity football player that seems to have his eye on my daughter...I am soooo not ready for THAT! Anyway, it's amazing how much of an expert my daughter is about stuff she knows nothing about :D She will come home and tell me all about the game, even though she wasnt' there and she doesn't know a thing about football. She doesn't know a first down from a field goal! (Just you wait...the fun is only starting for you.)

So, in the interest of full disclosure, I was considering whether or not I was willing to invite you to my house for dinner one evening, and decided to do a bit of research....just to be sure you weren't like an ax murderer or child molester...or married, you know the prudent stuff when you start dating a guy and have a teenaged daughter. I Googled your name and I came across this really interesting site that I didn't realize was yours, at least until I saw your picture, although in retrospect, I should probably have been able to figure it out by the Gizmo comment...:D

Please don't think I am stalking you or any such thing...I promise, I am completely normal...well almost...there was that time...never mind. But seriously, since I felt like I had, I don't know, eavesdropped on a private conversation or something, I felt like the only fair thing to do was tell you, even if it is really really awkward...and it is really really awkward! (I even tried to call you on your cell phone last night, I felt so guilty...although I have absolutely NO idea what I would have said had you answered the phone...)

SO....I really hope you don't think I'm some kind of seriously derranged nutcase...for stalking your or for sounding like a total moron for possibly make a big deal out of something minor, which a girlfriend said I was doing. (I will say I really like the webpage you built!)

And if you are still interested in trying to get together for a couple of hours in the next couple of weeks...I'm sure you could use a break, just like I could...just let me know.

Happy Monday!!!
M

Anyway, I did not post this for anyone to be judged here. She is a nice enough person, and I'm sure I haven't helped matters by not being direct with her. Instead, I wanted to lay the groundwork about an upcoming post I want to talk about later this week.